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Scattered Saturday - C

nobody@vox.com(Semiresponsive) — Mon, 21 Jul 2008 08:00:25 -0700

Oh, I'm way, way late, but I figure I'll play anyway. :)

This week our letter is.....C

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Diseases Cancer
Movie actors Collin Firth
Countries Columbia
Things associated with the internet Cache
Songs with a person's name in the title Ceceilia
Colours Crimson
Cartoon characters Curious George
Office items Clips
Authors Meggin Cabot
Food you eat raw Celery

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Friday Thirteen

nobody@vox.com(Semiresponsive) — Fri, 18 Jul 2008 09:03:20 -0700

Friday 13

The Top 13 Things Women Want In a Man

Read the article here.

Top 13 Things Women Want in a Man

How You Can Become an Irresistible Chick Magnet

By Patti Oar, published Nov 15, 2007

You may think that women want someone who is buffed and tanned and looks like a bodybuilder model from GQ. Those things are nice and yes we like to look at those guys, but just like you don't need for us to look like Victoria Secret models we don't require it in our man. OK. The 13 most important qualities that women look for
in a man are:

1. Honesty
2. Intelligence
3. Nice Smile
4. Sense of Humor
5. Manners
6. Sensitivity
7. Sincerity
8. Gainfully employed
9. Has own place
10. Owns a car
11. Affectionate
12. Considerate
13. Thoughtful

OK. First things first. Honesty is the NUMBER ONE trait that women look for in a man. That doesn't mean to be brutally honest and tell her she looks fat. (Never do that) but we want to know that we can trust that what you are telling us is the truth. If you've lied in the past it will be a very cold day in Hell before she trusts you again. And she may want to check your phone messages and read your email and call you 10 times a day to feel secure that you're trustworthy again. You may not like that but if you lie it may be the price you have to pay.

Intelligence: Women want to feel safe and protected and we want our men to be smart. Maybe even smarter than us. Women feel that your brain is your sexiest organ. So dazzle us with your brain and you will be surprised how stimulated we become. Kick her ass at "Jeopardy" and watch what happens.

Smile: We love your smile. We can't get enough of it. It makes us want to touch you and kiss you. So brush and floss and see your dentist and keep your mouth kissably fresh.

Sense of Humor: If you can keep us laughing you are golden. We love to laugh and we love a man who can make us laugh. This goes back to the smart thing as well. You have to be smart to be humorous. We like a man who's humor challenges us. Leave that 3 Stooges stuff for the guys. Women don't appreciate 12 year old juvenile humor.

Manners: Little things like manners are very important. Women don't want their man to drive up and reach over from the driver's seat and open the passenger door or just wait for us to open the door. A little old fashioned chivalry goes a long way. Escort the lady to the car and open the door for her. We love to be treated like queens. It makes us feel like you think we're special. And hopefully you do think she's special. We love a man with manners. We know we can take him home and our parents will love him. We don't want to have to worry about what you might do or say. We want to be with a man not a boy. That means no farting, belching, toe or nose picking, spitting, or smacking your lips when you eat. We want to know we can take you in public and we won't be embarrassed. And don't forget we also like to show you off to our girlfriends and we want them to approve. You want the girlfriends to think you're a "Keeper".

Sensitive: That whole thing about being "Sensitive" and getting in touch with your "Feminine Side" are all very true. A woman is waaaay more attracted to a man who isn't afraid to show his feelings and be gentle and sensitive. We actually think that makes you more manly. A man who clams up and thinks being macho is what we want is very wrong. One of the things that is extremely attractive to a woman is when it's obvious that you are attracted to us. There is nothing hotter than seeing how much we turn you on. Don't be afraid to show that. But of course there are limits and this can easily be overdone. Be careful about showing things like that at work or you might find yourself in a sexual harassment situation. And if you decide to try to tip your hand to a woman and show your interest, remember to keep it subtle. No woman likes a STALKER or a HORNDOG! We love to know that we are getting to you, but not in an obnoxious way. You may have to make some changes in your behavior. But of course, they'll be changes for the better and you will most likely be happier for it.

Sincerity: This is a little like honesty, but what I mean is if you need to change some of your behaviors to be more attractive to women then don't just do it to get the girl. This is something that has to be real. If you think that's not you, then maybe you should think about making a change. You can decide you don't want to change, that you like yourself the way you are, but if that was working for you then you probably wouldn't be reading this article. You were drawn to this piece because you must truly want to know how to be better with women and if you sincerely do then you may need to take an honest look at yourself and decide what you want because it has to be real.

Employed: OK. This is a no-brainer, but truthfully there are some men out there without jobs that think they can get all the women they want. I have no idea what makes them think that, but their egos are on overtime. Women need security and we want a man who can provide for us. That doesn't mean we don't want to work, but it does mean that we want to know that you are a responsible MAN.

Has Own Place: OK. Matthew McConaughey was really cute in Failure to Launch but that was a comedy. Seriously we don't want to have a sleepover at your Mom's house. Having your own place just shows us again that you are a responsible adult. And it does help if your place is decorated nicely. I don't mean you have to hire a decorator, but we're not drawn to frathouse chic. Impress us with your style. Again we want MEN not BOYS!

Has Own Car: This may not be important if you live in New York or in a place where the public transportation makes owning a car unnecessary but in most of the world you need a car to pick up your date and take her out. It is important to mention here that even though we love luxury cars we don't need that in our man. Women love men with all kinds of cars, but FYI keep your car clean (especially the inside). Nothing says SLOB more than a dirty car. Take out the fast food wrappers and keep it neat and smelling nice.

Affectionate: We really do love to touch and be touched. And I am not talking sexually here. But try holding her hand when she's not expecting it or gently rubbing her back. Little touchy things like that mean a lot. Rub her arm when you're reading the paper or do little things like foot and hand massages. Women love that.

Be Considerate: We appreciate the little things like holding a door open or not walking ahead of us. If we're sleeping make sure you turn out the light when you leave. Show her you care by picking up after yourself. When you get some dessert out of the fridge ask if she'd like some or make sure you leave some for her. Just basic consideration is so important to us.

Thoughtfulness: This may sound like consideration, but it goes a little further. Being thoughtful of her needs goes a long way. Maybe give her a call from work just to see how she's doing. While we love that we don't want to be smothered with a bunch of calls all day long. Bring something home for her when you go to the store, like some fresh flowers (I know that's cliché, but that's because it works) or maybe some of her favorite ice cream...just because. This shows us that you are thinking of us and that makes us feel important and special.

Those 2 words important and special should be burned into your brain. If you can always make a woman feel important and special you will be an irresistible Chick Magnet.

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My mom rocks

nobody@vox.com(Semiresponsive) — Fri, 18 Jul 2008 08:29:29 -0700

'Cause she did this pic from Tamera's wedding for me:

1 portraits 1aa Bree

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Life QotW: Class Time

nobody@vox.com(Semiresponsive) — Thu, 17 Jul 2008 10:56:46 -0700

If you could take a class right now and learn anything in the world, what class would you take?

Hmph, I'm trying desperately to get into a class I need to graduate but the professor will neither email me nor call me back. I'm going to deal with this calamity before I deal with hypotheticals.

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Winter '03

nobody@vox.com(Semiresponsive) — Thu, 17 Jul 2008 07:36:18 -0700

I'm feeling very nostalgic today. I want winter of '03, driving through downtown listening to John Mayer and my Jazz mix CD. I want my no-strings-attached-with-my-one-of-my-best-friends-sex that I gave up around February. I want curled-up-in-bed-with-my-other-best-guy-friend just talking. That's something that hasn't happened in a long time. I want twenty-five pounds ago. I don't want it all back forever - but maybe a week of the way life was in the winter of '03. I was twenty. I was so much closer to the big mistakes I made that altered the course of my life. I had no idea the big mistakes I'd make just three short years later. It was a rose colored time for me. I had a good job. No responsibilities. I had everything I wanted right within my reach. But, things change. And I can wax nostalgic all I want when John Mayer comes on the radio, but I'm not getting that world back. And really, that's okay. Because just as things are different now they're also better. Life at twenty-five looks a lot different than life at twenty. And I like the view from here. I like the person that five years of experience has made me. But in the end, I'd still take a week of that time back, just to revel in that feeling again.

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QotD: Won't You Be My Neighbor?

nobody@vox.com(Semiresponsive) — Wed, 16 Jul 2008 11:08:51 -0700

How do you choose your Vox neighbors and friends?
Submitted by gcgal.

First of all, a shout out to my girl gcgal for getting the QotD. :o)

I add people to my neighborhood when I find them interesting or enjoying keeping up with their blog (and a lot of times, thereby, their life). I make people friends if I feel like sharing with them the posts that I reserve for people who I know love me and know me well because I tend to use that level of security for ranting about life and love in ways that I don't feel comfortable leaving open to the public.

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Picture Memes - Birthday Edition

nobody@vox.com(Semiresponsive) — Wed, 16 Jul 2008 11:01:34 -0700

1) My birthday falls during the month of _____.
2) To celebrate my next birthday, I would love to _____.
3) My dream gift would be to receive _____.
4) But I'll probably end up getting _____.
5) A famous person I share a birthday with is _____.
6) If I could be serenaded the "Happy Birthday" song by anyone in the world, it would be _____.

Picture Meme - Birthday

1. July. 2. Have sex. Because I've never gotten to *on* my birthday. (Or, I'd take looking like her.) 3. Complete West Wing Box Set. (No, that's not my ultimate thing to obtain, but we're talking gifts here and I've got a limit on what I'd like to receive as a gift. 4. Wine. Because my friends know me and love me. 5. Tom Hanks. (Also, OJ Simpson - but I didn't want to put his picture up.) 6. Michael Buble. Preferably while he's laying there looking at me just like that. ;-)

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Vox Hunt: Happiness Is...

nobody@vox.com(Semiresponsive) — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 19:20:01 -0700

Show us something happy.
Submitted by L33tchica.

Quiana

My friend, Qui, at the 4th of July party. :)

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Things on Tuesday

nobody@vox.com(Semiresponsive) — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 13:38:23 -0700

Things that piss me off:

Not being able to get the 4th Harry Potter book in paperback.
My car not being fixed yet.
My step-mother and my sister forgetting my birthday.

Things that make me happy:

Part one of the software conversion going awfully damn smooth. Sweet!
All the wonderful birthday fun I had last week.
Brianna's impeding birth - can't wait. Well, I can wait for her to finish cooking. :)
Good friends & great fun.
Knowing that this Saturday is Dinner & A Show. It's Elvis baby!
Having significantly more things to be happy about than pissed off over.

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QotD: My Legacy

nobody@vox.com(Semiresponsive) — Sun, 13 Jul 2008 11:25:41 -0700

What is your legacy?
Submitted by Beautifully Broken.

I don't have one yet. I think I'm too young for that.

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